Thursday, January 25, 2007

Sucks

Remember when I went to Las Vegas last spring? I was visiting family friends, the husband of which was battling lymphoma. He's had a positively brutal course of complications since Christmas, and I just got word that he died a little while ago.

Even though I understood the gravity of his situation medically, and that this week in particular he was fighting for his life, I didn't really think he was going to die until last night when I had one of those awful premonitions. I was overcome with the feeling that he would be with my dad soon.

Now he is, and it sucks.

20 Comments:

At Thursday, January 25, 2007 5:18:00 PM, Blogger Diane said...

I'm sorry for your loss . . .

 
At Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:24:00 PM, Blogger Pope-rah said...

I'm so sorry. It's never easy.

 
At Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:34:00 PM, Blogger PixieGaf said...

LA I am really sorry. I believe in preminitions because a similar thing happened to me too.

I had a cousin who was in Iraq a few years ago and even though he was at war no one expected that he would end up dying. A few nights before he died I had a dream that I saw him running through a field. He was trying to meet this shadowy person who was at the other end of the field. Only when he finally reached that person did I realize that it was my grandpa who had been dead for over 5 years. Afterwards I just knew that he was not going to live very long but I kept it to myself because I really wanted my premonition to be wrong but it wasn't. He ended up dying one day before my birthday.

 
At Friday, January 26, 2007 9:07:00 AM, Blogger LA said...

Thanks, guys.

Pixie - That's an incredible, amazing story. I'm very sorry for the loss of your cousin.

 
At Friday, January 26, 2007 9:55:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

LA - I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

I had a premonition the night before my grandfather died.
It was really odd. I was at the hospital the next night and saw him off into to the other side.

 
At Friday, January 26, 2007 11:01:00 AM, Blogger EditThis said...

So sorry for your loss. It's never easy, and I've been fortunate to not have to deal with very much death in my life thus far.

I totally believe in premonitions, especially when related to sleep. I think we're open to so much more information when we're sleeping.

 
At Friday, January 26, 2007 12:11:00 PM, Blogger prunella jones said...

I'm so sorry to hear this, LA.

 
At Friday, January 26, 2007 4:53:00 PM, Blogger kookla@work said...

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At Friday, January 26, 2007 4:55:00 PM, Blogger kookla@work said...

LA. This story really touched me. I have a girlfriend who lives across the street from us. We all hang out together and on Sundays, I cook meals to last her family for the week. If you knew her, you would be inspired by her strength, humor and generosity. She has been battling cancer for the last two years. Originally treated as lymphoma, she now gets aggressive chemo for sarcoma. She just had her CAT scan yesterday and it has spread throughout her organs. The largest tumor is too close to her aorta to perform surgery. I went over last night with some tea and banana bread and just cried with her. It's almost impossible for me to wake up in the morning and face the inevitable. I don't want to imagine a world where I look out my window or drive down the street and not see her on her porch, smiling and waving at me.

 
At Friday, January 26, 2007 8:30:00 PM, Blogger M-M-M-Mishy said...

La: This does suck. Cancer has touched my family as well and it's a terrible disease. I'm so sorry for your loss.

 
At Saturday, January 27, 2007 12:04:00 PM, Blogger LA said...

Kookla - I'm truly sorry about your friend/neighbor. You're a good friend to hold her hand and face this with her. Make the most of the time you have left.

 
At Sunday, January 28, 2007 11:13:00 AM, Blogger Mike V. said...

I'm sorry to hear that, Lani.
My thoughts are with you this weekend.

Peace.

 
At Sunday, January 28, 2007 2:23:00 PM, Blogger ffleur said...

oh LA, I'm so sorry. It really sucks to go thru all that chemo and stuff and then die anyway. Wish they could find better ways to fight this wretched disease.

 
At Sunday, January 28, 2007 3:38:00 PM, Blogger Jesús said...

Dear LA,
Only one who has felt the loss of a loved one knows what you are talking about. I understand you, I believe there are feelings and connections that are simpler than thoughts and even deeper than instinct.
It is always difficult for me to say/write something to "hug" you, much as I'd want to. Just know that from here I'm doing the only thing I can: thinking of you a lot and praying for you and your loved ones.
Be strong. Thank you for sharing. A big big hug.

 
At Sunday, January 28, 2007 4:28:00 PM, Blogger prettykitty said...

la, even when we know it's inevitable, it doesn't make it easier. i had a sister that died of cancer when i was little. if you've ever seen a four year old suffer such a fate, it will change your life forever. since that time, my family and i cherish every moment with each other and don't sweat the small stuff. it's made me the person i am today.

ps i'm at koo&grim's now and her simmering stew (she sometimes makes 3 at a time!!) is making all of us drool. it's also a reminder that it's the little things you do that mean so much. i'm positive that seeing your friend and supporting him in his time of need, meant alot to him and his family.

 
At Sunday, January 28, 2007 9:02:00 PM, Blogger joy said...

I'm sorry to hear that. R.I.P.

 
At Sunday, January 28, 2007 10:40:00 PM, Blogger v said...

I am sorry to hear about your loss of a friend. I believe he is in a better place. I'm sure it is a very sad time, hopefully memories of a happier time with him will ease some of the pain.

 
At Wednesday, January 31, 2007 2:19:00 PM, Blogger Scottsdale Girl said...

LA: (((((((HUGS)))))

 
At Wednesday, January 31, 2007 4:12:00 PM, Blogger pelegrim said...

I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your good friend. It is unbearably sad to think of not seeing someone you love ever again.

 
At Saturday, February 03, 2007 12:23:00 PM, Blogger Joe said...

My grandmother died of cancer four years ago. It's such a horrible disease. I'm sorry to hear about your friend.

 

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